Trust.
What a loaded word.
What a complex subject.
Now it’s important to contextualise this trust. I’m not talking about your common variety, daily ins and outs. Yes I trust that the sun will rise. I trust that the train will be on time. But that’s not the trust I’m talking about.
I mean in those big moments. The hard moments. When everything is upside down, colour is drained from your world and the hope for tomorrow is all but gone. Those moments, when in our current climate and culture, we’ve come to know and expect “the instant”. The instant fix. The instant response. The instant answer. The instant understanding. But that’s not the way we were designed. We were called to Trust.
Trust in the divine. That unfailing reassurance that when all is said and done, there is someone greater than ourselves, working for our good.
It can feel like an impossibility in those moments of loss, pain, suffering, turmoil and despair. In those moments it’s easy to wonder “What good could possibly come from this? How can I possibly be healed or become whole again?”
In those moments, that is when you need to Trust.
What even IS Trust? How do I know if I am Trusting?
Now, I am the worst at this. I am a child of this generation – of instant gratification. Patience has never been one of my strengths. But Despair has been almost constant for the last 4 years or so. And Trust… don’t even get me started. Oh, wait…
Through a series of events, this challenging season of my life has been seemingly impossible to navigate. There were more times than I’d like to admit which had me longing to be at home with my heavenly Father. To end the horrible pain and to be in His arms forever.
But I’m still here. And I’m glad of that. Not just because I have a kid who relies on me, but because I’ve run the race. I’ve survived the moment and am learning to Trust in God’s plan for the bigger picture. In the same way that a toddler learns to walk, I’m learning what Trust is and how to do it.
The secret of Trust is very simple:
- Give it to God.
But Annelise, I’ve heard this before and I am giving it to God, but it’s not working.
I’m going to give you another very simple response:
- If it’s not working, you’re not really giving it to God.
My challenging season included losing a child, being blessed with another, the breaking of my marriage and a bunch of other little things which began to define my very existence.
The same time that this season started, God started throwing a passage at me, from every which way. A passage that I’m all too familiar with.
‘Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.’ Proverbs 3:5-6
It would pop up everywhere. Church. Work. Random links on Facebook. Songs on the radio. Conferences. Conversations. Calendars. Notebooks. Devotionals. Verse of the Day. Bible App. Murals.
It started as a subconscious presence. But it didn’t take long for me to notice that this verse seemed to be getting a WHOLE lot more air time than all the others.
God was calling me to Trust.
When we lost our first pregnancy, I couldn’t let go. I had to cling to that grief. It’s better to hurt than feel nothing… right? I was a bitter person. Those six months were the longest of my life. I’m sure I physically aged 5 years in that 6 month period. Then God’s calm came over me.
“I’ve got this. Trust me.”
And I did.
It wasn’t long at all until God delivered me.
We had Ted, my husband found himself without a job and our income suddenly vanished. God again:
“I’ve got this. Trust me.”
And I did.
God delivered me again.
Things were going really bad at home and the only path forward was one that would rip my family apart. God’s voice:
“I’ve got this. Trust me.”
And I did.
He delivered me again.
Things were on the mend but life felt off-balance.
“I’ve got this. Trust me.”
And I did.
God delivered.
Now, I’m not for one minute saying that I have all the answers on Trust. Life is subjective. We are all different. I’m definitely a heart person. But in my experience, I knew when I was Trusting in God – not going through the motions, saying the right words and clinging to my desire for control – but actually, truly, deeply Trusting God.
I knew when I was really Trusting because my worry evaporated in an instant. The weight disappeared. There was no doubt or question. God’s answer/response/timing wasn’t instantaneous, but his calming influence was. It almost felt like I was in a bubble, shielded from the splash back of doubt, the “realistic” concerns from those around me (which I know were very well intentioned). But they just didn’t get it. Their realistic responses could never match the voice of God and His clarity over my life. All because of Trust.
Some might describe Trust as taking a ‘leap of faith’. In the past 10 weeks alone, I’ve lost count of how many big things I’ve just jumped into – but they’ve all turned out all right and every time God was there saying “I’ve got this. Trust me.”
So what is the point of this blog post?
Well, I hope it can help someone. Maybe you’re lost, wandering in a cloud of confusion or hurt. Maybe grief is consuming you. Maybe, like me, the colour had drained from your world and tomorrow was just an endless pursuit of more of the same mundane. Maybe nothing seems worth it anymore. I don’t know all of your story. But I do know this:
You are loved by one much greater than yourself and through all of your confusion, hurt, pain, suffering and questioning why, he is there and has our ‘good’ in his works.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
Remember. You are Loved. God is good and He works for our good.
A
xo
Some final words of advice, from experience:
- God’s working for your good, doesn’t always mean working for what YOU think is good.
- God’s timing may be very different to yours.
- God has a bird’s eye view of the big picture
- The saying “everything happens for a reason” might very well be true, but it’s not always a comfort.